Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Illness and the Comfort of a Mother


I am sick with the stomach flu right now. Luckily I am starting to feel a bit better but things have been rough for the last day or so. I have mentioned before that I am not the most gracious sick person. In fact, I am quite pathetic. I just absolutely hate not feeling my best.

One thing about marriage that I have had to get used to is not having my mom around when I am sick. I know, that seems a little juvenile, but I grew up with my mom nearby all the time, and whenever I was sick she was right there making me feel better and taking care of me.

Now that I am a married lady all on my own, I have found that the times I miss my mom the most are when I am sick. Something about having my mom nearby just makes everything feel so much better. Last night I was up in the bathroom most of the night, and my sweet husband slept through the entire thing! Not that I blame him; he sleeps like a rock. But when I was growing up, my mom would have been right there with me, smoothing my hair and helping me as I succumbed to the icky stomach flu. So I had quite the pity party last night.

There is something just so wonderful about having a mom nearby when you feel terrible. I know many people who didn't have what I had growing up. Their mom's would prop them in front of the tv with a bucket and a box of tissues while they went off to work. I just cannot imagine that. My mom worked a bit when I was older, but she always made it clear to her bosses that her children were her number one priority. If I was not well enough to go to school, mom didn't leave me.

I have been hoping for some time now that God will bless me with a child. And I just cannot help but think that I would be devastated if God finally blessed me with a child and I was not there to care for it when it got sick. That I would make other things in my life more of a priority than taking care of the amazing blessing that God gave me. I thank my mom every day for showing me that I came first.


  1. ((Hugs)) Prayers going your way for health & comfort!

  2. A sweet post! I hope you are feeling better now!

    It has been quite a transition for me going from 'mothered' to 'THE mum'.
    For one, I have gotten tougher! And I have a sense of humour about it all now. So grateful for that. I was a very self-pitying child.

  3. I don't know any mother who doesn't make her children her first priority.

    I hope you feel better soon.

  4. I'm sure you have good intentions but some of your posts are a little judgemental. I also do not know a mother who doesn't put their children first. Even the ones that put their kids in front of a TV when they are sick and tend to other things. As well as encouraging other women to not bad talk their husbands we should also encourage other women to build each other up and not judge like Jesus would do. I'm sorry if this offends you. I hope God will bless you with a child soon. I also hope when that day comes you will not put so much pressure on yourself to be the perfect Christian mother. I pray you will be more understanding to other mothers. I have three wonderful kids and I stay at home with them but I am no better of a mother than mothers that use daycare or have grandparents care for their children. I didn't have a mother that stayed home with me but she was a great mother still.

    I had the stomach flu last year with a newborn. It was terrible. I hope you get well soon. I'm sure your husband is a great caretaker. Mine was an absolute blessing when I was out for two weeks.

    Merry Christmas,

    1. Thank you for your comment Stephanie. I am sorry I came off as judgmental in this post. As you said, my intentions were not that way. My issue is not with putting the kids in front of the tv, but rather with mothers (or should I say parents in general) not being there. Unfortunately, I disagree with you; there are many, many parents out there who put their children behind personal ambition, schedules, social lives, etc. This post was simply about how I can only hope to be a parent who keeps perspective on what is most important in life.

      Thanks again,


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